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How releasing control realigns the fabric of your reality

As my daughter and I were driving down the dark, country roads last night, she suddenly shouted in terror "Mom, look out! Deer!!!" I saw a herd of deer barreling across the field, towards the road, seemingly two freight trains about to collide in 2 seconds. The human instinct was for me to hit the breaks.

In my years of breathing and awareness, I have come to a natural point of responding to every moment of perceptional danger with a deep, relaxed breath. As I breathed deeply, I surrendered to the moment, and relaxed fully into my underlying state of allowing of everything that is out of my control. My body intuitively pressed down on the gas pedal and as I felt the car speed up, I heard my daughter scream as the first deer bashed into the rear passenger side with a huge bang. As I pulled the car over, I could see that there had been a calculation in my mind and body determining that slowing down would have created a head-on collision with these beautiful creatures, but there was no time to think it through, for even staying at my current speed would have resulted in the first deer meeting the front end of my car. The avoidance of this accident happened in a moment of allowing and trust, beyond thinking. One deep breath of surrender is all it takes for your wisdom and clarity to rush in and take the wheel.

Given the loud bang, we assumed the deer lay injured and the car must have a huge dent. Once again, I took a breath of total acceptance and reaffirmed "It will be what it will be". As we drove around checking the road, ditch and field, the deer seemed to have been well enough to run off with the rest. We could see little white tails bouncing away from our headlights. I walked around to check the car and was amazed to find no damage whatsoever.

Since I perceive no particle of this creation to be random, I asked to be shown the purpose for this event. I was reminded of an incident I wrote about one year ago, where my car was careening sideways down an ice covered road in the foothills. In a complete loss of control, it appeared as though I would slide directly into the people walking on the sidewalk! I took the same deep breath and said "it will be what it will be" and felt myself downshift into traction and what appeared a magical, miraculous realignment of my car. In that moment, I felt a huge rush of adrenaline that I breathed deeply and continuously through my body. This time, there was no adrenaline, no fear, and no noticeable nervous system response at all! It felt divinely amazing to relaxedly flow through the entire situation. It's important to acknowledge how far we've come & energy will definitely bring you situations to show you this and celebrate your expansion! When old scenarios come back around, rather than perceive you are going backwards or being tested, consider it may be a completion of sorts. It's often just something for you to dance through and laugh joyfully as your rejoice in how far you've come!

The human survival reaction is embedded deeply. We have programmed ourselves to contract and withdraw, or fight, in the face of fear. This contraction of your personal energy literally magnetizes and attracts the very thing you don't want to happen! This is all control. Moving beyond fear into freedom and ease is simple, yet requires a great deal of courage and trust. When you take a deep breath and surrender to what IS, the energy expands, the fear releases, and the particles that make up the fabric of your reality begin to realign. This doesn't happen overnight. It happens as we continuously choose love over fear, acceptance over control, surrender over fight, and hand it all over to our true Self. It starts with baby steps, and as our trust in Self grows, the steps become leaps and bounds. Every time we relax into our knowingness, rather than react in fear, subtle changes take place in the subconscious mind and nervous system. At times it may seem like a never-ending process, but eventually the body and mind rewrite the old systems to the extent that your experience of life is dramatically easier.

We have been taught to fight and protect, when in reality, energy is designed serve us in more graceful, beautiful, and enjoyable ways. It's not that energy has an opinion, it's that fear, protection, and control are not in alignment with our true, eternal state of being. Being in a constant state of openness and ease sounds great, but let's also honor the world we are living in. It can be tricky to discern how to be in a state of surrender in a world full of egos! Just as your true Self would never attempt to control or mistreat another human, it would not be in alignment for you to let others control or mistreat you. Letting others know that their actions are not acceptable isn't always about control, for it may be out of love and respect for yourself. Although we can't control another, we can give them the opportunity to connect more purely from the heart, or simply walk away.

As you stay in the present awareness of your breath, physical, mental, and material alignments come into a pure form more and more. Life becomes a state of constant grace as you fully trust your expression and let yourself flow without fear. I have immense gratitude for the moments that remind me to take a deep, trusting breath and allow everything to be what it is. I also have gratitude for learning to speak from the heart, trusting my inner knowing, and allow nothing less than love in my life.

Take a deep breath and have a moment of compassionate gratitude for yourself! Acknowledge the human struggles, your arising awareness, your continual evolution, and how far you've come on your journey. Life is a bit crazy, so give yourself an extra breath of love and compassion and even celebration! Namaste.

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